There’s something about a Wedding in May

There really is something romantic and wonderful about going to a wedding in  May. We were honoured to be able to attend Chris’ cousins wedding in a little country church and hall in the town of Hagersville. My husband grew up round those parts, so we enjoyed the day immensely and even squeezed in a quick visit with his stepdad and wife between the ceremony and reception.
  I had a great view of the bride just before her grand entrance.
 I love capturing moments like this, you could feel her excitement and anticipation.

 It was a lovely traditional ceremony and I especially loved the vows they exchanged.

They day was truly a celebration of their joy. There was much laughter 
in both in the ceremony and reception to prove it.
It was while I was sitting in the service, I was reflecting on how sometimes I feel like wedding ceremonies are more meaningful and important to the married couples who are in attendance, than perhaps even to the Bride and Groom (excepting the legal aspects obviously ). 
I  was reminded of an article I had read in this months Thriving Family magazine by Focus on the Family. It was written by Timothy and Kathy Keller – Living Out “I Do” reiterates that marriage vows are not supposed to be a declaration of a current or present love, but a mutually binding promise of future love, no matter what.
That’s why I think it’s more meaningful to the already married couples. Because it’s an ongoing reminder of the commitment they made to each other (whether it was weeks or years previously) before God and witnesses. A living reminder that at one time they shared a “present” love much like that of the bride and groom before them, however now, they themselves are activity living out their own vows – that “future love” they promised to each other however long ago. 
I loved this wedding because I believe the Bride and Groom share that kind of commitment to each other, and I was honoured and blessed to be a witness of this covenant and also to have the reminder of a May wedding fourteen years ago, when I was the one wearing white and full of the joy of love

RSVP faux pas

There aren’t a lot of things that REALLY irk me, but this is one topic that sorely does. I’m not sure if this is due to the generation gap, because I hear people who are in my parents generation and older complain about this too, but it definitely is not limited to my generation and younger any more either.
PEOPLE, when you are invited to an event and you see these four little letters…
R S V P (followed by a certain date)

It means that you are to do the following.

1. Look at your calendar
2. Make a commitment, YES or NO to the event.

Remember you mattered enough to the hosts, to be invited. No one will be offended if you can’t or even don’t want to attend but you must decide. (side note: It’s also very shallow of you to withhold your decision based on whether something “better” comes up or not – but that’s for another rant on another day)

3. YOU MUST REPLY

With your answer – email, call or send it in. Make sure you do. I know we all forget things and have busy lives, but this is extremely inconsiderate. The host(s) who take the time to plan these events, are trying to make sure they have enough food, etc.
4. If you reply NO

Do not just show up without contacting the host beforehand, they will not be prepared for you, and you will be an inconvenient irritation to them (despite the fact that they smile and say “it’s ok” – IT IS NOT OK. Ever.
5. If you reply YES

SHOW UP. If crisis prevents you (like death) CALL the hosts and let them know immediately – not just prior to. This way they can invite someone else last minute to take your place if needed.
Finally, the more important the occasion is, the more important it is that you do this – usually because the budget is effected directly by your courtesy. Occasions that involve rentals and caterers for example, weddings, involve deposits and often times retainers that are non-refundable.
I recently attended a wedding where about 10 guests who had RSVP’d didn’t show up to the reception. Honestly, I almost wrote down the names of the offenders to send nasty messages to – but I didn’t, I thought I’d blog instead…
Think of this couple (most couples now a days pay for most or all of their own weddings), starting out life together. First the insult of empty chairs in the hall. Second, the cost. the deposit for the hall was probably astronomical. They get charged for the number of guests who rsvp’d. Including same day no-shows. This particular wedding was absolutely lovely, and it was a very nice meal, etc. I’d wager a guess at $100 a plate (or more).
10 no shows =$1000 down the drain

What an insult to the bride and groom and their families. “Congratulations! Now, I’m gonna rip you off to show you how much I care.”
You people who didn’t show up, you are not great friends and you should feel bad enough to send them a gift that more than makes up for your poor manners.
There you have it. I’ve gotten that off my chest.
Please, if you want to keep your friends and be a better person. RSVP and follow through on your commitments, no matter how big or small the event is.